We receive comments in our bulletin each week. We ask for them. Here is a comment we received a few weeks ago - during my series "The Christian and the Economy." Small details have been changed to protect the guilty...
"My experience at North Baptist has been coming to North and Rochester on holidays for a few decades. I was raised in a God-fearing, God-worshiping church since infancy. I have a family member who is a pastor of a Baptist Church.
I was disappointed in the beginning of your service. My children were shocked, stopped singing, looked at me for my reaction to your rock concert style music ("worship"). How was this heavy beat music supposed to focus me on worshiping God? I was distracted by trying NOT to notice the man dancing and wiggling six rows ahead of me. I will be searching for a more dignified (emphasis original) place of worship the next time I come to Rochester for a visit.
And the message... I need to think about this and pray before I tell you what i really thought. I'm disappointed in the lack of focus on God, Christ, salvation, sin, how we are sinners, and the exalted place God needs to hold in our life. Lots of reference to your money and 401K with little reference to the Scriptures. I could go to financial counseling class and get the same information."
To be honest, I don't always handle these kinds of things well. I want to call them on the phone and tell them what I think... (I mean)... thank them for their comments. I have a "defense" for everything we do, but what's the point? I'm not sure what rock concert she's been to recently... I'm not sure why Dave Boehm was dancing... :) And I'm not sure how the sermon could have been more grounded in Matthew 6... BUT - all my defensiveness aside, Scott Bixby made a comment that will ring in my ears for a long time.
After reading the comment and sensing how discouraged I can get with these silly things, Scott said, "This is a huge compliment! If someone who has been in a traditional church all of their life came to North and was totally comfortable... we are not pushing it far enough." Wow - did I need to hear that. That is exactly right. I really do hope that she finds a church to enjoy while she is in Rochester because that is not a purpose on our radar screen. We don't exist for a person visiting from out of town looking for a traditional church. We exist to magnify God by making and developing increasingly devoted followers of Christ. We exist for the person who hasn't been in church in a long time. We exist to help connect people to the God who loves them. We aren't trying to make anyone 'comfortable.'
And the other great reminder from the comment was a reminder that many, many people at North have lived through a lot of changes over the past eight years or so - and for the sake of the Gospel "put up" with some things that don't line up with their preferences. I don't know how many of them get my blog, but if you are one - THANK YOU for prioritizing those whom we are trying to reach over our own preferences!! You are a joy for me, and I am SO thankful for you!
There have been two take-aways for me:
- The one thing I want to ring in my ears when people complain about things they don't like: "If someone has been in a traditional church all of their life came to North and was totally comfortable... we are not pushing it far enough."
- And I am SO thankful for those who have been in a traditional church who transitioned with us over these last eight years, and they have set aside their preferences so we can change what is cultural while maintaining truth that is eternal. By doing so - we want to win as many as possible (1 Cor. 9:19)! So if you've been at North longer than I have - from the bottom of my heart - THANK YOU!!!!